Online Dating... there are many words that can be used to describe it; sketchy, creepy, suspenseful, exciting, exhilarating and fun. There are also a few words that can describe some of the people you meet; Creeper, lame, boring, tool, charming, nice, funny and witty. Amongst these many adjectives are a few things that you would hopefully want people to use to describe you…and a few that hopefully DON’T describe you. How do you get people to use the ‘right’ words to describe you? Venus is here to help. Here are a few things that you can do to get on the ‘charming’ list and off the ‘creeper’ list if that is the way you sway.
First and foremost SPELL CHECK. It is an immediate red flag when you are not willing to take the time to proofread your profile for errors. While we are on the topic, proper grammar and punctuation are appreciated
Post a picture... Just like you don't like messaging people that don't have pictures, we don't enjoy replying to messages that do not have profile pictures. Are you hiding something?
Post a current picture. We know that even if you don't like to have your picture taken there is a picture somewhere taken of you after the year 1990.
While we are on the subject of pictures, let's chat about what pictures are appropriate... While we are also interested in the fish you caught and the 40 pictures of that car you are restoring, those are not the pictures we want to see on your profile. One picture of you with the car is appropriate, but that's it.
Lists of qualifications on your profile, ordered by importance and completely unachievable, are ridiculous. This is supposed to be our first impression of you and we can't tell if you are joking or actually expecting perfection.
We know it's hard to describe yourself, we have the same problem, but a little effort goes a long way. Empty profiles that require us to do all the leg work are not appealing. We don't want to take the time to message you if there isn't at least something intriguing in your profile.
If we are on a dating website chances are we are not looking for a random make out. That is what bars, clubs, and personal ads on craigslist are for...
We do not claim to have all the answers but this, in our humble opinion, will help you make the most out of your online dating experience.
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