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lacking interest, care, or enthusiasm; indifferent or apathetic

Boy sees girl, boy finds girl attractive, boy asks girl out, boy expects girl to do all the contacting from then on. This is called apathy and women do not find it attractive.

Boy says "Hi, I would like to get together sometime, are you free tonight?". Girl is busy but willing to make future plans... boy only calls an hour or so before he wants to go out... this is called apathy and women do not find it attractive.

Women want to feel wanted. Not calling or letting us know that you are actually interested is not the way to win us over. We are not asking for roses every day or long hand written love notes. A simple message or a quick phone call to let us know that you are thinking about us goes a long way. We understand that you aren't ready to give up the man card yet... but we promise planning in advance will not make you any less of a man in our eyes.

Lastly, we like time to prepare for any outing, no matter how casual it may be. Calling us only 20 minutes before you are considering planning an outing makes us feel like we were a last minute choice, the one you went with after you had tried all your other options which didn’t pan out. Giving us at least 24 hours notice is something we find very attractive…